4 LAWS PRACTICE

Mental Filter

Find the need. Always find the need first.

1

The Relationship

Think of a relationship causing tension. Who is it with?

💡 Use your phone's microphone to dictate

2

Your Needs Being Violated

Which of YOUR needs are threatened in this relationship? Tap all that apply.

🛡️
Safety
Law of Limits
🎯
Possession
Law of Responsibility
💛
Belonging
Law of Respect
Create
Law of Talent
3

Their Needs Being Violated

Which of THEIR needs might you be threatening? Tap all that apply.

🛡️
Safety
Law of Limits
🎯
Possession
Law of Responsibility
💛
Belonging
Law of Respect
Create
Law of Talent
4

Laws Being Violated

Based on the needs, which natural laws are being broken? Tap all that apply.

🚧
Limits
Protects Safety
⚖️
Responsibility
Protects Possession
🤝
Respect
Protects Belonging
🌟
Talent
Protects Creation
5

How Will You Meet the Need?

Before enforcement comes connection. How will you actively meet their core needs?

🛡️ How will you meet their need for Safety? (optional)
🎯 How will you meet their need for Possession? (optional)
💛 How will you meet their need for Belonging? (optional)
✨ How will you meet their need for Creation? (optional)
6

Enforcement You Need

What do YOU need to do to protect needs and enforce the laws? Tap all that apply.

Limits
Set clear boundaries about unacceptable behavior
Limits
Remove myself from unsafe situations
Limits
Have the other person removed from the situation
Limits
Establish physical means to stop violations immediately
Responsibility
Stop rescuing them from natural consequences
Responsibility
Let them own the results of their choices
Responsibility
Alter compensation — adjust what I give based on what they earn
Respect
Filter out disrespect without retaliating
Respect
Control my tone — exclude negativity, include warmth
Respect
Affirm their importance even when setting limits
Talent
Make space for their gifts to emerge
Talent
Exclude criticism of their creations — include only encouragement
🚧 How will you enforce Limits? (optional)
⚖️ How will you enforce Responsibility? (optional)
🤝 How will you enforce Respect? (optional)
🌟 How will you enforce Talent? (optional)
7

Obedience You Need to Give

What do YOU need to do to align with the natural laws? Tap all that apply.

Limits
Honor their boundaries without pushing back
Limits
Create safety through consistency
Responsibility
Own my choices and their outcomes
Responsibility
Stop blaming others for my situation
Respect
Give importance without demanding it back
Respect
Acknowledge their worth even in conflict
Talent
Express my gifts without waiting for permission
Talent
Catch them being good — selective attention to what they do well
Talent
Blow the air of challenge — "Bet you can't... How long can you... What's possible?"
Talent
Show my own creations freely — volunteer creation as connection
Talent
Look for the spark — always hunting for their desire to create
🚧 How will you obey Limits? (optional)
⚖️ How will you obey Responsibility? (optional)
🤝 How will you obey Respect? (optional)
🌟 How will you obey Talent? (optional)
8

Accept Your Commitments

Review what you proposed. Tap once to mark ✓ Already doing. Tap again to + Commit to add.

Only items marked with + will appear in your final TODO list.

Proposed Enforcement
Proposed Obedience
Dr. B
4 LAWS ACADEMY
www.4lawsacademy.com
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The Relationship

Needs Being Violated

Your needs:

Their needs:

Laws Being Violated

Your Accepted TODO List

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