🎯 Find the Need

Figure out what's really being threatened

🎯 For Youth Culture Bearers

When someone is upset or causing trouble, there's always a NEED underneath. Maybe they feel unsafe (Safety), like something was taken (Possession), left out (Belonging), or unable to express themselves (Creation).

This tool helps you figure out which need is threatened — because once you know the need, you know which LAW applies. If you were the parent, this is exactly how you'd think through a problem.

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Step 1: What's Happening?

Describe the situation you're dealing with. What happened? Who's involved?

Describe the situation:

Step 2: Who's Upset?

In this situation, who is the person whose need is threatened? (It might be you, or someone else)

Who's affected most?

How are they acting? (What behavior are you seeing?)

Step 3: What Need is Threatened?

Based on what's happening, which need do you think is being threatened? Click one.

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SAFETY

Physical or emotional security. Feeling in danger, threatened, or scared.

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POSSESSION

Ownership and fairness. Something was taken, damaged, or isn't fair.

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BELONGING

Connection and acceptance. Feeling left out, rejected, or ignored.

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CREATION

Expression and growth. Being blocked from creating, learning, or being yourself.

Step 4: Which Law Applies?

Now match the need to the right Law. This tells you how to handle the situation.

Law of Limits

Protects SAFETY — Stop violations, enforce boundaries

Law of Responsibility

Protects POSSESSION — Make things fair, require compensation

Law of Respect

Protects BELONGING — Filter the bad, fertilize the good

Law of Talent

Protects CREATION — Encourage gifts, make space to create

🎯 Your Analysis

🎯 Find the Need

🎯 For Youth Culture Bearers

Step 1: What's Happening?

Step 2: Who's Upset?

Step 3: What Need is Threatened?

Step 4: Which Law Applies?

💡 Culture Bearer Response:

The 4 LAWS

“Culture Cure”